At The Arsenal, we exist to forge complete human beings from those brave enough and humble enough to accept themselves. We assume that each member is committed to being the best version of themselves possible. That journey starts with self-acceptance, knowing strengths and weakness. Knowing what you like and dislike and why.
That is a scary journey for many of us, as blaming others or using relativism to make our flaws seem “OK” because at least I’m not (insert name here).
Positive intent, regardless of your behavior at the start, is critical in becoming all you can be as a person. If you operate out of self-interest, malice, revenge, weakness or perceived threat, then your behaviors become destructive. Even if you are “successful” you end up burning bridges and destroying relationships. When positive intent is the starting point, there is a fabric for long term positive outcomes for all.
Think about it, if I reach out to you when you perceive I have mislead you, hurt you or did not listen to you and I reach out to address the damage my behavior has caused, accept responsibility for my actions, and share my positive intent that was not realized. How would you feel? Admitting that you accept responsibility for your behavior even when your intent was positive is a sign of self-awareness. It happens to all of us, we’re not special in that sense.
At The Arsenal you will be challenged, humbled and engaged to accept yourself and to assume positive intent in others. We will also reinforce the fact that we judge others by their behaviors and ourselves by our positive intentions. We are always the hero in our own story, trying to do the right thing. However, the benefit of the doubt is not extended at times to others who feel the same way.
Take a moment today and reflect on a relationship that is wounded, and take a fresh look at the situation with the questions:
1) What was my intent here?
2) What did the other person perceive happened?
3) Is it possible that my behavior DID validate their negative perception of the situation?
4) How can I redress this relationship and open up positive communication?
I’m proud of those of you who are willing to take this step today in your own self-awareness and in your personal development.